11 + 1 Reasons You Do Not Have the Love of Your Life Yet
So today we will be talking about something I get asked about all the time…
“Why can’t I find the right person to love me.”
There are plenty of reasons why you cannot do that YET.
Yes, I said YET…because you will if you stay with me and learn what you need to change in your life, thinking and beliefs to get what you want.
And yes, YOU CAN!!
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You Carry Too Much Hurt from Previous Relationships
So you have been hurt: by parents, ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands, I get it. We all have.
Sadly you most likely have not resolved your hurt, maybe you haven’t let go of it. Or you think you let go of it but you actually have not made those changes in your subconscious mind. You may feel sad inside, vulnerable, waiting history will repeat itself. And this is the problem.
If you expect problems, your brain will look for them and always find them. So basically, there is no chance you can find and create a great long-term sustainable relationship because you will always find something wrong with it and it will turn sour.
They say that every person we meet can be our ideal person. And they always come across like that, don’t they? But a few months later it feels like they are starting to show what is wrong with them.
Nothing is wrong with them. It is your insecure mind which is looking for their faults because you want to keep safe. Because no way you want to repeat the previous mistakes again, right? But you will. Your brain will find something wrong with everyone, unless you get rid of the subconscious beliefs, and only then the brain will stop looking for the problems and let you live happily ever after.
All you need to do is to undo those beliefs, once and for all deal with your past, and finally move on when you start having beliefs that actually serve you and turn them into permanent habits.
2. You Do Not Believe Men Are Up to Any Good
You were hurt by men previously. Possibly your father, brother, peers, and mainly men in your previous relationships.
You may think they cheat, lie, abuse you, disrespect you, are untrustworthy, and much more. With these beliefs, you can only create more of such relationships.
You cannot expect men to love you and respect you if you generally think that they are awful…that will not happen in a million years…
You need to change your thoughts and beliefs. So what is your first reaction when I say:
Men are wonderful.
Men are amazing.
Men are always super helpful.
Men adore me.
Men think I am the most gorgeous girl.
Men love my body.
Men are always faithful to me.
Men are so caring.
Men are loyal.
Men are so respectful to me.
Unless you believed every single sentence I have just written you will find it beyond hard nee impossible to find the right guy and mainly KEEP him.
3. You Do Not Love Yourself the Way You Need To
If you truly do not love yourself, how is anyone else supposed to love you? See, how that does not make any sense?
You need to think and believe wonderful things about yourself first before you can ask someone else to believe them about you.
You should be able to write down at least 50 things you love about yourself. Sadly most people I know can do anything between 5 and 10 things. That is heart-breaking.
4. You do not think men view you in a favourable light
So after everything you went through you feel that men think you are too fat, ugly, stupid, unattractive, boring, loud, miserable, can’t cook, have horrible dress sense, lazy, and God knows what else.
The trouble is that if you think this, so will they. They will start believing what you believe about yourself too. Why do it?
It is your choice to think about all the bad things. But guess what, you have a choice to think that men love you, adore you, want to live with you, want to be married to you, and have your best interests at heart…as I say, your choice…
5. You do not have great beliefs about love & relationships in general
Maybe you believe that finding love is too hard, finding a great relationship is impossible and all wonderful men are either married or not available. Or you may think that love belongs only to Hollywood movies, relationships never last long, being in love is silly, it is all just too difficult, demanding, and time-consuming…
Again, are those beliefs beneficial to you and helping you to get what you really want? My guess is not. And I hate to be right…
6. You have non-beneficial beliefs about how life is treating you
There are 2 kinds of people: victims and winners. Victims lose and blame the world and everyone in it and winners win and understand that if they want to be happy, they have no one else to blame but to change themselves.
Which one are you? Because only the winner version of you can get what they want…in love, relationships, money, health, beauty, business, etc.
7. You subconsciously believe that you are not good enough
Do you think – consciously or subconsciously – that you are not good enough? That maybe you don’t have the right personality, height, money, looks, or sense of humour men want you to have?
Breaking news: you need to be a self-confident woman of high value to get a great man…
So maybe you should make a choice to start seeing yourself as exactly that…
8. You may believe – subconsciously – you are not loveable
It is very possible and extremely common among my clients that they never felt loved and have a general belief that they are not loveable.
They simply never experienced the love they needed and were dreaming of…possibly from their parents and now are stuck believing the “unloveable” is them.
But guess what, again, it is a choice. We could sit here till the morning blaming our parents, however, that will not bring us the love of our life. Changing our beliefs will.
9. You are not deserving of great love
And it is also possible that you were made to feel – as a child or young adult – that you do not deserve love. You were not good enough at school, you were too loud, too slow, too whatever and you were told you do not deserve love.
Well, I know how I personally call people who make other people feel this way…narcissists, bullies, bad parents…
You do not need to believe them. You need to believe that you are a wonderful kind caring giving person who deserves love and that love is your birthright. End of.
10. You do not believe you can find the love of your life
Maybe you gave up on love or on having the exact person you have in mind.
Maybe you never thought you could have them.
Maybe your mother told you that it happens only in fairy tales and you need to get “real”. Love that advice, grrrrr.
Maybe your girlfriends told you you are a dreamer while sipping their Martini at the bar.
Or maybe you just watched some really depressing TV show where one of the characters broke the news to you that ideal relationship does not exist and you are just being naïve, gullible and you are totally wasting your time…yeah, right!!
So I have great news for you. Stop listening to people with negative thoughts and limiting beliefs, including you. You can have exactly what you want and exactly who you want. You always could. You just did not know how. But guess what, that can be fixed…
I have plenty of clients who found their ideal partner as fast as 2 hours or 2 weeks after they did the right thing to get them from the system I teach. So can you!!
You just need to change your beliefs about that. And learn how to get it…
11. You are wanting this great relationship too much
This is a problem. You are emotionally starved, you miss love, you do not like being alone, you want company, you want to be in love and you want it right now.
Sadly that is called neediness and desperation. Neediness and desperation are both killers of any success. That works in love, in business, in career, in sales, in everything. I can absolutely without a shadow of a doubt promise you that when we behave like this all the good people and things will run away from us as far as possible.
Remember, men love self-confident women and women of high value. And neediness and desperation are everything but that.
When you change all the beliefs I talked about so far and you enjoy your own company, you love yourself unconditionally and enjoy life, guess what…he will show up so fast you would not believe it…
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12. You live more in the doubt, worry, and fear than in your wish
And last but not least…you have to learn to live in the state of the person who is loveable, loved, admired, attractive, gorgeous, pretty, intelligent, successful, competent, and married to get just that in life.
You need to become the ideal version of yourself. When you truly feel like that person it will be ridiculously easy for you to find the love of your dreams. Trust me.
You need to drop all doubts, fears, and worries to get the perfect man.
And I promise he does exist.
But with your current beliefs, you will not see him as you are focusing on all the wrong things…
So, if you would like to change all of this, get in touch, and let me show you how finding the love of your life is done:
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